I hope you’re feeling good about yourself because this really gets to the topic for today.
Yesterday, I was at my improv class, we were all getting to know each other. Part of an exercise that we were doing to get closer as a troop, getting to know each other better, and were given an opportunity to ask each other questions. One of the questions asked of me was, if I could change anything in my past, what would it be? I found it really interesting that this would come up. I even chuckled about it because I had been talking about this exact same subject with one of my coaches earlier in the afternoon. It was quite apropos and I was prepared, if you can imagine that.
I thought about it for a second, even though I was kind of already prepared, and went back to what I had said earlier. “No, I wouldn’t.” You see, I’m happy with who I am today, with everything that has happened to me in my past, good or bad, up or down, making money, not making money, being upset, anything like that has all led to where I am today. It’s all made me part of who I am today, and I really like who I am today.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not satisfied. I’m still growing and looking to do things better and find better ways. I’m trying to learn from situations and other people that come into my life almost daily. I’m always trying to improve, and I’m happy with me. I like being where I am now. I like that I invest in myself and that I like to learn new things, like to meet new people.
That brings up the question from me to you. What would you change? Do you like who you are today? You need to answer that for yourself. If you like who you are today, continue to improve yourself just like me. I am more than happy to talk with you about how I might recommend that you could do that in the future. Is it a book, seminars? All of the things that I do, you’ll hear me talk about in future posts.
If you like who you are, great. I love you for that. If you don’t like who you are, I still love you, but don’t go to the past and wish on things that you could have changed so that you can be somebody that you would like today.
My recommendation would be just the same. Continue to find things that could help you to improve. Surround yourself with people that are positive, that are uplifting for you, that are supportive of the things that you want to do. Limit your involvement with people that are telling you that you can’t do the things that you want to do, that are telling you that it’s not going to work.
Whether those people are friends, family, people at work, whomever. You need to call BS on them and move on. Find a way. Find people you can surround yourself with and find a coach that can help you find a better way. Find someone that can really help you to get to where you want to go. There is a better way out there. You can be happy with who you are. Even if you’re unhappy with a small part of who you are and you want to be happier.
We are happiest when we’re making progress with ourselves and making progress in the world.